Dear quitters and giver uppers’….age is only a number! So I have to ask you a question? How is your life? Does your man or women husband or wife still turn you on? How is the sex? Is it still good? O wait, your in your 40’s 50’s. 60’s 70’s or even 80’s and I guess it time to quit? In the bible we learn that Sara was in her 90’s when she birthed Isaac. Yea really. How old was Sarah when she and Abraham were still enjoying great sex and when Isaac was born? On this account, she would have been perhaps 90 or 91 when Isaac was born. I know right, this is amazing… Yet some of you women start going through the change and then you quit and allow your body’s to go to Hell! Men you are no different, as a matter of fact most women take better care of their body’s then us men and they even have babies…So let’s start here… First I will cover the mental and physical effects of divorce for a middle aged man or women. I know right??? Yikes! Divorce over 40, 50, or 60, is surging. In a new survey why after all of those years couples are calling it quits and it shows, among other things, that women are most often the ones walking out and more often than not men don’t see it coming. "The divorce rate has risen for adults at all ages over the past decades," says Andrew Cherlin, Ph.D., a professor of sociology at
Now let’s look at growing older, so you’re turning 50? You know
what big deal? Get over it, your not dead…does this mean your sex life stops
and that your supposed to stop living? To me this is all the more reason to
live bigger better and strong, at least by now you should know who you are and
what you want, and just because we hit our middle ages does not mean that we
are to stop living… the best one for me is women who are going through the
change…What the Hell is that, is that a death sentence, so your body is
changing, then push through it and get over it…live young, and your body will
act young. After all isn’t the new 50
equal to turning 30? Ladies if you are turning 50, please do your self a favor
and go get laid! I mean seriously! Men the same goes for you, don’t walk around
like you cant get it up any more and ladies, don’t walk around like you don’t
want it anymore…What a bunch of quitters…Get active, join a gym, swim some
laps, start running, If I only knew then what I know
now. I try to avoid thinking that because it reeks of
regret. However, I find myself saying it often... mostly to women in their 20s,
30s and 40s. Why? Because, as Shakespeare once wrote, "What's past is
prologue" and what we do (or don't do) in our younger years will have a
huge impact on how we look and feel by the time we enter our 50s. Our earlier
choices and decisions can also affect our finances, relationships, careers, and
general sense of happiness later in life.
Now that I'm over 50, I look
back at my younger self and wish that someone had pulled me aside, sat me down,
looked me straight in the eye and told me what I'm about to tell you. For sure,
many -- if not all -- of these "commandments" you intellectually
already know to be true. However, your current younger you may not be
emotionally ready to accept them. You might still be in that glorious,
relatively carefree stage of life where you think, "Oh I don't need to
think about these things now. I've got plenty of time to think about them
later," which is a variation of The Ant and the Grasshopper fable
from Aesop. Or, perhaps you're simply too engaged with the business of life to
bother. Or, you are caught up in the very youthful idea that you are
invincible.
Whatever your reason, you can
choose to think about these later and spend a bit of your early 50s playing
catch-up, and hope for the best. Or, you can do them now, and be far ahead of
the game.
Don't Stop
Networking: Whether you choose to stay home to raise children
some day or work straight through, you should never stop networking, and
building on that network. If you do choose to be a SAHM (stay-at-home mom) try
to stay connected to your career by moving from full-time to part-time work,
which will make it easier for you to move back into full-time work when you're
ready.
Do Create personal
trust worth friends:
Whether you're looking to change jobs or careers, pursue a relationship, or end
one, having a trusted group with whom you can review life's challenges, is
essential. Invite several friends (or even just one) who will encourage,
inspire and guide you. Having a regular group you can depend on for unbiased
and objective views and advice is critical, especially as you are facing major
life decisions.
Don't Smoke: Lung cancer is the number one leading
cause of cancer death for women, but it is avoidable. The number one
cause? Smoking, which is also associated with many other illnesses. We are
considered the smarter sex, and yet women are picking up the habit more than
ever before.
Go to the beach,
but take care of your body: I spent my teenage summers
basking in the sun at Coney Island , with baby
oil mixed with iodine slathered on my body, a reflector aimed at my face. I
threw away the reflector and tried to remember to put on sunscreen, but it
wasn't until my mid-40s, when I saw sun damage on my face (wrinkles, brown
spots) and I developed skin cancer on my chest, that I got serious. Soaking up
the sun feels great and who doesn't look fabulous with a little peachy-bronzy
glow. But, if you don't apply sunscreen every single day of the
year, including on your neck, chest and hands, you will put yourself at high
risk for skin cancer (highly avoidable) and skin that looks much older than its
years (wrinkles, brown spots, sagging, leathery skin). Steer clear of tanning
booths, too.
Enjoy your Sex Life: Look we all know the rules with Un-safe sex and higher risk for
pregnancies and STDs, some of which are life long. Don't think because you are
young, you are immune and invincible. You are not. And don't put pleasure
before common sense. Make sure you know the scoop on your partner before you
proceed, including your boyfriend or husband. Use condoms. Discuss your risk
factors with your gynecologist, and get tested for HIV, Hepatitis B and C, and syphilis,
especially when you start a new relationship. Insist that your partner does the
same. But most of all have sex, have lots of great sex!!!!
Move Your Body
Every Day: Get yourself into the habit of working out, and
don't let excuses (even really good ones) get in the way of giving yourself this
daily gift. Obesity is the culprit in many serious illnesses, including certain
cancers. One third of all cancer deaths are related to obesity, physical
inactivity, or poor nutrition. Make fitness a lifelong commitment.
Don't Ignore Your
Young Bones: Osteoporosis is a disease of the bones that we
associate with aging, and rightly so. But, it takes time to get there. Poor
nutrition, specifically a lack of adequate amounts of calcium and Vitamin D
(which helps the body to absorb the calcium) is partly to blame. A more
powerful contributor is the lack of regular strength-training exercises.
Do Save More and
Spend Less: Retirement is, presumably, years away, but it's
never too early to plan for it. The more money you have when you reach 50, the
less stress and anxiety you will have. One of the biggest fears among women over 50 is not
having enough money to live a good life as they age. It's not always easy to
do, but the sooner you start saving the better you will be down the road.
Don't Be Apathetic: We're all busy with family, work, and friends...
but that's no excuse to stop thinking about causes that are important to us and
to the world. The world is weary, it seems, from the economy, jobs, war,
politics, and are turning away from getting involved. More than ever, we need
the energy and ideas that youth can provide. Get involved, stay involved. Be
the change.
Most of all Embrace
Your Age, don’t run from it:
Don't fight aging. Embrace it. This doesn't mean you should spend your life
focused on getting older, and how to stop the process. On the contrary, live
fully engaged with each year of your life, embracing the future ones with joy.
It is a very powerful concept letting go of your younger self, and embracing
and loving your aging self. Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and take
care of you body, mind, and soul as you would your children, your family and
your friends. This is how you will keep your self young…
So here is how I see it in the
end, life is full of hills and valleys, and this is why we call it life. But when
we start looking at our self as being old, then we start acting old and our
body, mind, and soul, will agree with our way of thinking and this is how we will
start acting, “OLD”! I refuse to give into old age, I choose to live, I am for
sure one of the most self driven, confident men on this earth, and by having
this attitude by 48 year old body feels 28, right along with my mind. So I challenge
all of you, choose to live your live to its fullest each and every day no
matter what life changes you may be facing, and surround your self around
people who think and act young…because at the end of the day, we only live
once, so why not get the beat of your life, in the end ill use a great quote
from a great man named “Honest Abe Linclon”, “Its not
the years in my life that will count, it is the life in my years” just
like the idea to think and grow rich, we can also think and grow young ~ Donnie
Bolena