After a few dates with women who have young kids, I am now
really hesitating to get into any full blown relationship with a woman with
kids because it’s so difficult. First and foremost has to deal with Baby’s
Daddy? No guy wants to deal with baby’s daddy ever, or anyone in baby’s daddy’s
family, especially "BABY'S DADDY'S MOTHER". I would rather
have a root canal. I am just way too old and set in my ways for that kind of
drama. Also, scheduling dates is inordinately difficult, there’s a lot of
concern about staying over night, and weekends are almost out of the question
depending on their child’s age and their custody agreement. It’s a lose - lose
situation for a guy like me. Plus, my kids are grown, and I do not have no
drama or any baggage that I bring to the table.
No man loves women more then I do, I mean I totally love Hot,
Beautiful, Sexy, Women, and I go through a lot of them monthly. I'm probably considered
to be a serial dater who goes through women like most people go through bread
and milk. But after I get the woman, it stops there for me. I have no desire to
raise anyone's kids, Period! The problem with a woman who has small kids
is it’s tremendously difficult to get any quality time with her, all due to the
fact that her life revolves around her children and her children’s needs, as
they are supposed to.. Plus if the woman is somewhat HOT and
still has her youthful beauty, she’s out their chasing some younger guy,
because she feels he will be better in bed, easier to manage, and more willing
to take on the burden of her and her children.
Now that is a myth, however women are not blessed with logic, they are emotional creatures and their thinking in situations like this is usually based on emotion and desperation. It’s sad but true. A guy like me who ranges 40-50 years old doesn’t have to tolerate any of that because we have enough options. Guys my age can still get HOT women who don’t have kids in the home because (A). They never had children, or (B). Their Children are grown and out of the house. "Either is good and this makes for a Win-Win situation for both parties involved". To be brutally honest, guys like me don’t have to (nor do we really want to) raise, or financially support another man’s child or children, and no matter what you say, in some scenarios, and in some way they will be.
Now that is a myth, however women are not blessed with logic, they are emotional creatures and their thinking in situations like this is usually based on emotion and desperation. It’s sad but true. A guy like me who ranges 40-50 years old doesn’t have to tolerate any of that because we have enough options. Guys my age can still get HOT women who don’t have kids in the home because (A). They never had children, or (B). Their Children are grown and out of the house. "Either is good and this makes for a Win-Win situation for both parties involved". To be brutally honest, guys like me don’t have to (nor do we really want to) raise, or financially support another man’s child or children, and no matter what you say, in some scenarios, and in some way they will be.
That’s my view in a nutshell. If a woman is looking for a new baby’s daddy, then they need to be dating men in their early/mid-forties or older. Preferably divorced men with kids of their own who understand their lifestyle and that their child takes top priority. Men, who have children the same age as the woman, are more likely to step in, and step up to meet his new woman’s wants and needs. But guys like me, are a very bad choice, we have raised our kids, and we have no desire to raise hers and to deal with all the unnecessary unwanted drama that comes with her and her kids.
O’ and by the way. Yes, some men will tell you that neither your
age nor the fact that you have a child are an issue. How ever it really is and
they will lie to get a good roll in the hay. Younger guys especially are way
too immature to be thinking more than a step or two ahead and won’t consider
what dating someone five or ten years their senior with a child or children
entails. Nobody gets it until they do it. I have been there before and it was
one of my worst experiences ever. I was so happy to get away from her, her
kids, and the baby’s daddy’s, yep two kids, by two different men, and all her
drama. I felt that I had been let out of prison, or freed from Hell. It’s a
daunting proposition for many.
The solution for most women is pretty simple. I would suggest
for the mothers with small kids who are in their late 30’s to mid 40’s that you
just have to let go of your desire to date men who are younger then you,
because it will be very difficult to keep them around long tern, once the sex
wears off, most young guys will be out of there as fast as they landed in your
bedroom or in the back seat of your mini van at your local bar. It’s one
of the tougher things about dating as a single woman over 35, but it’s crucial
that you all clearly understand the rules when you have small children. True
Story ~ Donnie Bolena
