Since the inception of the sin of Man in the
Garden of Eden Love and Sex has and will always be two separate acts. First we
will look and see how Webster defines the difference between the two.
1.SEXUAL INTERCOURSE - 1 heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by
the penis: coitus
2: intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve
penetration of the vagina by the penis. Nowhere in the definition do we see the
word LOVE.
2. LOVE
– a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or
personal ties maternal love for a child 2.
An attraction based on sexual desire: affection and
tenderness felt by lovers.
Affection based on admiration, benevolence,
or common interests love for his old schoolmate’s. An assurance of affection gives her my love warm attachment,
enthusiasm, or devotion love of the sea. The object of attachment, devotion, or admiration baseball was his first love b (1): A beloved person: darling
often used as a term of endearment used as an informal term of address. Unselfish
loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as the fatherly concern of
God for humankind (2): Brotherly concern for
others.
There is a big difference;
I personally feel that women confuse the two way more then men. I mean let’s be
honest here. Have you ever just wanted a good roll in the hay with no strings attached?
I sure have and I still often do. I am not and I have never had a problem in knowing
the difference between having sexual intercourse and falling in love. Because
to me it is not an emotional attachment, it is more like a game of golf, or a
football game, and if most men would admit it, they probably feel the same way I
do. Trust me, I have had good sex, and it was not love. It was just SEX. The
two terms are often interchanged when talking about the sexual act. However,
many people don't consider them the same thing since love involves strong
emotion and sexual intercourse can be performed without any emotion at all by
many people. I would even say most people. Sex is a physical act and involves
physical contact between the parties. While, in the reverse, technically you
could make love without ever performing an act of sex. Love is not required to
have the physical satisfaction, however meaningless sex is just that,
meaningless. In the days gone by,
"making love" meant flirting and exchanging loving expressions, but
it didn't involve sex. It is now more often used to mean sex. Many people hold
that you cannot have a meaningful mutual sexual experience with the highest of
passion and pleasure without love. And many others tend to agree with that, so
when they say "making love", they usually mean both the sexual act
with the strong emotions, too.
Love is an unconditional act and it is
unselfish, sex is a very selfish act because we are using each other to satisfy
our mad desire of the greatest release and feeling on earth, “THE ALMIGHTY
ORGASIM”. Making love is very hard to describe in abstract terms, as it
involves sharing a deep emotional bond. It takes a while to build up that deep
bond, and it grows deeper over time.Having sex is an experiential act, while making love also adds the existential
elusive emotional components. Others describe sex as two bodies joined and
maybe minds involved to give physical pleasure to each other with the option
to get up to a physical climax or orgasm. Their idea of making love is as the
ultimate end, the ultimate pleasure of your joined souls. This is impossible to
accomplish without full emotional involvement and love.
There is a
Difference between Sex and Love; SEX and LOVE is definitely not the same thing.
Although the words are often used interchangeably in our society, there are
some very important distinctions that should be made regarding the nature of
sex and love and the quality of the experience that each provides. The word SEX
can be used in a variety of different contexts, such as to describe the difference
between male and female and/or to describe the activity of sexual intercourse. Some people argue
that intercourse is the only form of sexual activity that qualifies as
sex, while others use the word sex to describe various forms of sexual behavior
including oral sex, anal sex, masturbation, and all forms of sensual touch
engaged in for the purpose of creating sexual arousal. The activity of sex can
result in an orgasm which provides the human body with an experience of
physical pleasure. This physical pleasure can be brilliant and powerful,
however, it is also fleeting and short-lived, and in some instances, can be
followed by longer-term feelings of emotional, spiritual and psychological loss
and depletion. This is especially true if sex is engaged in outside of the
bonds of authentic love.
The activity of
sex can also lead to the conception of children. However, it is important to
note that babies conceived as a result of a lustful or loveless sexual
encounter are often unwanted, which causes them to suffer both in the womb and at birth and beyond and
can result in an adult who has life-long difficulty generating authentic
experiences of love. Children conceived through lustful or loveless sex are
often perceived as draining or burdensome to their parents whereas children who
are purposefully conceived in a mutual explosion of love can provide feelings
of restoration and renewal to their parents. The mainstream media promotes
lustful and pornographic sex, as does the culture of “masculinity” in a western
society that has come very far from understanding the truth of how the sacred
masculine energy was intended to express itself. The media wants us to believe
that sex based on carnal desire will lead us to joy, and the truth is they are
right, in many cases it does. However, radical extremists would say otherwise
and that Sex engaged in solely for the purpose of fulfilling carnal desires
will lead us away from love. I disagree, Love is unconditional and Sex can not
and will not ever over power love.
Some people
would say that, Pornographic sex i.e., bodies without heads or hearts grabbing,
rubbing and banging against each other can cause incredible pain to the human
psyche and spirit because this type of sex is devoid of spiritual depth and
connection. Man who are these boring old people that write this stuff? Again, I
am not so sure I agree with the so called sex experts. They also claim that two
bodies coming together for the sole purpose of experiencing fleeting moments of
physical pleasure can leave participants feeling empty and short-changed once
the sexual encounter is complete. Really? Then why do we men want our women to
look and dress sex, I’ll bet Victoria Secret or Frederick's of Hollywood
about this emptiness that can be deep and profound, and lead participants to
engage in numerous sexual encounters in the hopes of someday experiencing “the
real deal.” I mean I am sure I am going to ruffle some feather here but, that
is a load of crap. Sex sales, so deal with it people. Women love to look sexy for
men so they can get swooped up and have amazing sweaty Sex and men love for
their women to look sexy so they can get them naked and have amazing sweaty SEX.
This is NOT what we call sexual addiction. This is real deal, and in some cases
it ironically, has nothing to do with carnal desire or physical pleasure, per
say, but involves two people coming together with profound spiritual intent to
engage in great sex and lovemaking for the express purpose of co-creation with
God in the form of bringing forth new life. I mean really people this is not
rocket science. We all know how Baby’s are made Right?
Certain types of
“sex” will most definitely activate the neurobiology of love in both
participants and leave a lasting, love-filled imprint on mother and father as
well as the child being conceived. Love is the energy that creates universes. It
is all-pervasive and all-powerful. At their core, humans ARE love and are able
to experience their essence when circumstances and conditions allow for the
neurobiology of love to activate within their physical vehicles as in our
human body. In a context of absolute
spiritual safety and trust, humans can undergo physiological, hormonal, and
neurochemical changes in the brain which will trigger a release of oxytocin and
endorphins into the system, activating an experience of “love.” This
neurochemical experience does not require “sex” to activate, but can be
triggered by something as simple as eye-gazing, such as when a new mother gazes
into the eyes of her newly born babe and suddenly experiences deep and profound
sensations of extreme joy and well-being – sensations which will be remembered
throughout life. The energy of love can also be felt as heart-center
sensations of expansion and opening, and can cause alterations in conscious
perception, enabling the experiencer to connect with a much expanded version of
themselves or “God.”
Due to the
extremely high levels of trauma that most humans are experiencing in the womb,
at birth, and within the first two years of life, it has become increasingly
difficult for us, as a species, to maintain our connection to our essence and
to produce authentic experiences of love. We are, in effect, a brain damaged
species, and this is making it more difficult for our systems to activate the
neurobiology of love in our bodies. To compound our troubles, we are being
conditioned/manipulated to “have sex” in ways that are deeply wounding to the
human psyche and spirit. This is moving us further away from our essence and
from what we really want i.e., to experience a love-filled life and to live in
a culture that knows the secret to preserving love in families forever. Getting
clear about the distinction between sex and love and adjusting our behavior
accordingly is key to our understanding.
Have
Sex vs Make Love
Have Sex is a phrase that describes physical
connection that leads to sexual
pleasure, release and gratification. Making Love is all of this, but
also emphasizes the deep emotional connection, affection and shared bond that develop
between caring lovers. While making love is also to do with the state of mind,
having sex is more about the physical relation. Let’s look at a Comparison
chart
Having sex is
general sexual intercourse between a couple. This is irrespective of the
fact that they share love or any bond between them. While making love reflects
a feeling of affection associated with sexual intercourse. Making love also
implies being intimate with your partner, not only physically but also mentally
while having sex is just an urge for intercourse.
One may have sex with any person, needn't be their partner, spouse, beloved
etc. It can also mean casual sex with anyone. While making love is generally
referred to intercourse with a partner, spouse or beloved. In simple words,
with one you care for or are emotionally attached to.
Having sex doesn't extend beyond sexual
intercourse and more often than not, there isn't any emotion between the
couple. On the hand, emotional
attachment is there when
making love. It is sharing over all intimacy. Some people also suggest that
making love is an expression of love though having sex isn't because love might
not be involved.
Having sex may just satisfy one's sexual urge
while making love may please a person's physical, emotional, sexual and mental
urges. It can be said that having sex is merely restricted to a physical act while making love goes
to include other urges also.
A few people also might believe that having
sex is when sexual intercourse is fast and quick while making love is when
they're having slow and tender sexual intercourse.
I don’t know if
we should talk about this…”
“And why not?
Everybody has sex!”
“Yeah, but
everybody should be making love.”
“Come on, how
many guys do you know making love?”
–Salt N Pepa , “Let’s Talk About Sex”
In the my life ,
I’ve had sex, I’ve gotten laid, and I have just out had raw meaningless sex.
However, it’s been a long time since I’ve made love, and I kind of miss it.
Some people might argue that there’s no difference physically, they are the
same. But emotionally, passionately, and mentally, the two deeds are very
different.
1. The First Time
The first time
you make love with your partner, it’s usually a very special moment. It’s often
planned out in advance, especially in new relationships. There’s often sensual
foreplay, and your bodies fit together perfectly.
If it’s your
first time with a new partner and you’re just having sex, it may be
spontaneous. Your partner may not be your boyfriend, or even your crush, and
the decision to go all the way is frequently a hormonal (thanks, booze!)
impulse. First time sex can be sloppy and awkward as you try to find the right
position, and after everything’s said and done,
it feels like there was something missing.
2. Your BAC
I’ve heard of
drunken sex, but I’ve never heard of inebriated love-making. If anyone has
experienced the urban legend of wasted love-making, I’d love to hear about it.
3. The Setting
If you’re about
to copulate in a dim room filled with candles, on a bed covered with rose
petals, you’re probably going to make love. If you’re going to do it in the
backseat of a car, an airplane bathroom, an elevator, or another compact space
that may have legal repercussions attached, its sex. Al fresco sex/love-making
is a grey area. Sure, sex on the beach or in the woods may sound like a fairy
tale scenario, but dirt in sand in uncomfortable places can ruin the romance.
4. The Soundtrack
Lovemaking songs
include “The Fear You Won’t Fall” by Joshua Radin or “Wild Horses” by the
Rolling Stones (or any cover version, including Mazzy Star, Jewel, or the
Sundays). My personal favorite “Lets Get
it On” by Marvin Gay or “Turn
Off The Lights” by Teddy Pendergrass Sure, there
isn’t always music playing when you’re doing it, but if you could have picked a
song to illustrate last night’s mood, which would you pick?
5. The Aftermath
Lovemaking
includes mutual orgasms, followed by spooning and cuddling. If you’re in a
relationship, your boyfriend’s post-sex behavior could include promptly rolling
over and falling asleep, or the phrase “That was great,” despite the fact that you didn’t get off. If you’re
single, you’ll take the walk of shame after a long night of sex. In those rare
occasions that you’ve made love to someone without commitment, it could turn
into breakfast in the morning, a few more rounds, and maybe even a new
relationship. In my opinion and experience, it’s far more common to have sex
than to make love. However, this means that when you do find yourself both
emotionally and physically stimulated with a partner you care for very deeply,
you appreciate the art of lovemaking so much more than that one-night stand a
few months ago with what’s-her-name?
This Why we need to know the difference
between love, attachment and sexual desire? Because the truth is, it is
spiritual, or at least it should be as seen through the eyes of God.
From time to time, our romantic relationships
can be difficult to understand. Part of this confusion stems from the fact that
our relationships are influenced by three powerful, yet separate, emotional
systems. Often these three emotional systems work together to create satisfying
outcomes. But, that is not always the case. Sometimes these three emotional
systems compete with each other - leading to mixed feelings and confusion.
Sexual Desire
The first emotional system is sexual desire.
Sexual desire involves the lustful, sexually passionate feelings people have
for each other. Sexual desire is a very intense and powerful emotion; it can
cloud one’s judgmental and prompt risk-taking. Sexual desire is often based on
physical appearance, novelty and the chemistry between two people. And while
sexual desire motivates a lot of our behaviors early on in a relationship,
intense levels of sexual desire are difficult to maintain with the same person
over the course of time.
Love
The second emotional system entails love. And
love, in and of itself, is composed of a complex set of feelings. Love often
entails feelings of closeness, genuine appreciation, and concern. But, the
experience of love is not the same for everyone. For some people, love is
delusional and needy, or based on emotional game playing, or experienced as the
desire to take care of another person.
Attachment
The last emotional system involves
attachment. Attachment is the feeling of security and comfort we get from being
close to someone else. Attachment provides a sense of stability, certainty, and
safety – the feeling that someone will always be there for you in a time of
need. And, like with love, there are individual differences in the experience
of attachment. Again, these three emotional systems can work together to
produce a healthy and satisfying relationship. Sexual desire can turn into
feelings of love, resulting in a lasting attachment. However, these basic
emotional systems do not necessarily work in sync over the course of time. Long
term, it can be difficult to find one person who consistently satisfies all
three needs. In many cases, these three emotional systems work against each
other creating competing desires and interests. For instance, it is possible to
be attached to one romantic partner, be in love with someone else, and still
have sexual desire for another person. However you are most certainly setting
yourself up for failure in such a situation. Being aware of these competing emotions, and
that not everyone experiences love and attachment in the same way, often helps
make sense of the problems that arise in our romantic relationships.
Now
from a biblical standpoint, sex
and love are seen somewhat differently. Sexual awareness has always existed. It
is natural in the human mind. But today it is incessantly stimulated by
sex-saturated news and entertainment media. Sexual content is not only
blatantly displayed, but objects that have no sexuality are labeled as
sexy-from cars to computers and beverages to body lotions. Is this the way we
should treat sexuality? We're in a kind of sexual wilderness, lacking right
directions and guidelines. Sadly, this situation has cost societies dearly in
many major ways-in financial losses, health crises, marriage and family
breakdowns and a lack of sexual fulfillment and happiness. Few understand the
purpose of sex. They are told that sex is an evolutionary accident. Therefore
they assume that anything goes as
long as it occurs between consenting adults. But that approach is naive. It is
an unsubstantiated assumption that avoids candidly addressing the question of
where sex and marriage came from. The simple and often overlooked answer is
that God reveals that He created
both sex and marriage. His reasons for doing so are nothing short
of wonderful. Ignorance of God's purpose for sex has brought about enormous problems.
Why did God create sex and marriage? Let's consider the reasons.
The
first purpose
Perhaps the most obvious of God's purposes for sex and marriage is for the reproduction of the human species. Notice the first statement in the Bible about God's creation of man: "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them "Genesis 1: The statement that God created them male and female is the first reference to human sexuality. God created the sexes; it wasn't an evolutionary accident. If you'd like to read proof that God exists and Darwinian evolution is but a modern-day myth, be sure to request the free booklets Life's Ultimate Question: Does God Exist? And Creation or Evolution: Does It Really Matter What You Believe? Next we read: "Then God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it ... The statement that men and women are to reproduce is part of the blessing that God pronounces in this verse. An air of sacredness permeates the process described here. God gave a blessing to the creation of children through a loving sexual relationship. God sanctified sexual relations between married men and women, in that the first command He gave Adam and Eve was to begin an intimate sexual relationship and reproduce! God essentially repeats His command in Genesis adding another crucial thought: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." In speaking these words, God formally created the institutions of marriage and family. Since God created and commanded these relationships, marriage and the family are holy institutions, not mere creations of human society. We see here God's obvious intent that children should be conceived and born into a family relationship, a family consisting of a husband and wife. Historically this has been the norm. But the last several decades have produced a drastic departure from God's pattern. People have tried to redefine the family in all kinds of ways. Make no mistake: God's Word reveals it is a serious blunder to profane sex and marriage in this way, even as societies are already experiencing the bitter fruits of people trying to do things their own way. God's reasons for creating sex include the purpose of reproduction. But His specific intent is that it should occur within the divine institution of marriage.
Perhaps the most obvious of God's purposes for sex and marriage is for the reproduction of the human species. Notice the first statement in the Bible about God's creation of man: "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them "Genesis 1: The statement that God created them male and female is the first reference to human sexuality. God created the sexes; it wasn't an evolutionary accident. If you'd like to read proof that God exists and Darwinian evolution is but a modern-day myth, be sure to request the free booklets Life's Ultimate Question: Does God Exist? And Creation or Evolution: Does It Really Matter What You Believe? Next we read: "Then God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it ... The statement that men and women are to reproduce is part of the blessing that God pronounces in this verse. An air of sacredness permeates the process described here. God gave a blessing to the creation of children through a loving sexual relationship. God sanctified sexual relations between married men and women, in that the first command He gave Adam and Eve was to begin an intimate sexual relationship and reproduce! God essentially repeats His command in Genesis adding another crucial thought: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." In speaking these words, God formally created the institutions of marriage and family. Since God created and commanded these relationships, marriage and the family are holy institutions, not mere creations of human society. We see here God's obvious intent that children should be conceived and born into a family relationship, a family consisting of a husband and wife. Historically this has been the norm. But the last several decades have produced a drastic departure from God's pattern. People have tried to redefine the family in all kinds of ways. Make no mistake: God's Word reveals it is a serious blunder to profane sex and marriage in this way, even as societies are already experiencing the bitter fruits of people trying to do things their own way. God's reasons for creating sex include the purpose of reproduction. But His specific intent is that it should occur within the divine institution of marriage.
Part of God's plan
Though God created our sexuality and ordained sexual relations between married men and women to populate the earth, this was only the first part of God's ultimate vision for humanity. God desires to fill the earth with human beings who can eventually enter His own spirit family. The physical human family, brought about through marriage, is a model of God's spirit-composed family of the future. God sent His Son into the world so all could eventually have eternal life through Him. The gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” but afterward all who will repent of their sins can receive eternal life through a resurrection. Those who are given life through a resurrection will be the children of God, possessing eternal spirit life, as God is spirit God designed human reproduction through sex as a means to populate the earth. But His eventual intent is to bring as many of the billions who have been born-those who will repent-into His family as spiritual children. In a sense He, too, is reproducing Himself. Therefore, we can see that reproduction of human beings has two purposes-to give physical life now to our posterity and to provide the potential for many children of God to receive eternal spirit life. The human process of reproduction is a physical type, a model, if you will, of what God is doing on the spiritual level. This grand design is the marvelous purpose God is working out on earth. This plan is sometimes referred to in the Bible as the "mystery" of the
Showing
love in marriage
Sex in the human and animal kingdoms serves the purpose of reproduction, but in virtually all animal species reproduction is the only purpose. In observing the habits of higher animals, we can see that, except for those periods in the female's cycle when she is susceptible to fertilization through the sexual act, only a very few species of animals ever engage in sexual intercourse at all. With human beings, however, sexual interest between men and women isn't restricted to the woman's fertility period, either on a monthly basis or over the life of the human being. Typically humans develop a strong interest in sex beginning at least by puberty and may, if they remain healthy, stay sexually active long after their reproductive years. God created a continuing sexual interest and sexual appeal in human beings. This in itself is a healthy trait of the human mind and is triggered by hormones that God designed the body to produce. But why? God created this sustained interest in sex as a means for men and women to express love in marriage.
Sex in the human and animal kingdoms serves the purpose of reproduction, but in virtually all animal species reproduction is the only purpose. In observing the habits of higher animals, we can see that, except for those periods in the female's cycle when she is susceptible to fertilization through the sexual act, only a very few species of animals ever engage in sexual intercourse at all. With human beings, however, sexual interest between men and women isn't restricted to the woman's fertility period, either on a monthly basis or over the life of the human being. Typically humans develop a strong interest in sex beginning at least by puberty and may, if they remain healthy, stay sexually active long after their reproductive years. God created a continuing sexual interest and sexual appeal in human beings. This in itself is a healthy trait of the human mind and is triggered by hormones that God designed the body to produce. But why? God created this sustained interest in sex as a means for men and women to express love in marriage.
This is one of the great purposes for sex that many have failed to understand. A look at history reveals that we're no further along in understanding this aspect of God's design than were many bygone cultures. Some men in ancient
Distorted
views of sex and marriage
Some of the leaders in the early centuries of the Christian religion advocated views that caused marriage and sex to be held in low regard. Augustine, of the fourth century, wrote: "I have decided that there is nothing I should avoid so much as marriage. I know nothing which brings the manly mind down from the heights more than a woman's caresses and that joining of bodies without which one cannot have a wife". Augustine made this comment shortly after his conversion. Eventually he rose to a high position in the Catholic Church, and it wasn't long before his views and those of others resulted in marriage and sex being regarded as a less-honorable state than celibacy. The church came to erroneously teach that the sole purpose of sex was reproduction. But was this all that God intended? Certainly not! God designed the male and female bodies to provide pleasure in marriage. Regrettably, one of the tragic results of distorted religious views stipulating that sex was given solely for reproduction was that it often caused enormous guilt in married couples who engaged in sexual behavior as an expression of their love for each other, as God intended.
Some of the leaders in the early centuries of the Christian religion advocated views that caused marriage and sex to be held in low regard. Augustine, of the fourth century, wrote: "I have decided that there is nothing I should avoid so much as marriage. I know nothing which brings the manly mind down from the heights more than a woman's caresses and that joining of bodies without which one cannot have a wife". Augustine made this comment shortly after his conversion. Eventually he rose to a high position in the Catholic Church, and it wasn't long before his views and those of others resulted in marriage and sex being regarded as a less-honorable state than celibacy. The church came to erroneously teach that the sole purpose of sex was reproduction. But was this all that God intended? Certainly not! God designed the male and female bodies to provide pleasure in marriage. Regrettably, one of the tragic results of distorted religious views stipulating that sex was given solely for reproduction was that it often caused enormous guilt in married couples who engaged in sexual behavior as an expression of their love for each other, as God intended.
It's
long been a common practice among men to manipulate women just to obtain sexual
favors from them. Women in turn manipulate men so they can get something in
return. Sadly, this practice is still common even in the relationship between
some husbands and wives. When such selfish attitudes persist in a marriage, at
least one and possibly both mates use sex to get
something, even if it is nothing more than sensual gratification,
rather than to give and express
love. Genuine love, as God designed it, is an act of giving. In marriage it is
cherishing one's mate. It is an eagerness to please, help and encourage. As we
noted earlier, God's first command recorded in the Bible is that man should
"be fruitful and multiply" Genesis we see another command: that,
after leaving the families of their birth and forming their own family through
marriage, they should "become one flesh". God's directive that they
should become one flesh means specifically that they should become one through
sexual union, although the expression also has spiritual implications affecting
every aspect of married life. Next the Bible states that "they were both
naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. This shows that the sexual
relationship, as God created it, was intended as completely pure and wholesome.
In Hebrew, the language of the Old Testament, sexual intercourse is described
as "knowing." This is because there is no more intimate act than the
sexual act, and, by its nature, it can greatly enhance understanding of one
another's emotions and feelings and promote exquisite companionship and unity.
Some have mistakenly believed that, after Adam and Eve sinned, purity was
removed from marital relations. This is refuted by many scriptures supporting
marriage, including Jesus' reaffirmation in Matthew 19:4 that men and women
should marry and become one flesh.
Sex designed to express love
That sex is a means of expressing love is made plain in Paul's epistle to the Ephesians. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for her... that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies ... For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh" Ephesians 5:25- What does Paul say is the purpose of marriage and of becoming one flesh through sex? The purpose is love. Sex, like any gift of God, can be misused. The tendency among human beings through the ages has been to succumb to the pull of sex appetites outside the bounds of marriage. However, this is a misuse of the gift of sex that God clearly labels as sin. Many in society see no harm in premarital or extramarital sex. But the Bible calls these actions fornication and adultery, offenses serious enough to deserve the death penalty
Leviticus Many are aware that marriage should be a
relationship built on love. One thing many people do not realize is that the
relationship between a husband and wife should provide a mirror image of the
loving relationship between Christ and His Church. After speaking of a man and
his wife becoming one flesh in Ephesians 5: Paul said, "This is a
great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ
and the church" Jesus Christ had a totally self-sacrificing
love for the Church, a love so deep that He died for her. Marriage is supposed
to be a picture of this great love. Human marriage is imperfect, to be sure.
Nevertheless Jesus' love for the Church is the kind of loving relationship
marriage is intended to portray. In the
physical realm a man and woman become one flesh in marriage. In a Christian's
relationship with Christ, he or she becomes spiritually "joined to the
Lord and is one spirit with Him" The genuinely loving "one
flesh" relationship of marriage parallels the close "one spirit"
relationship we are to have with Christ. Paul calls this marvelous truth a
"great mystery." The word for "great" in Greek is mega. It expresses the magnitude
or the profound nature of the mystery. It is called a mystery because so few
understand this truth. When we comprehend God's incredibly high view of
marriage as revealed in the Bible, it should inspire us to treasure marriage as
never before. We should commit ourselves to continually improving our
marriages, striving for a relationship that seeks to emulate-on the human
level-the deep, timeless love Christ has for the Church. We should also strive
to be completely faithful to our husband or wife in mind and body.
No one should ever become one flesh with
anyone else but his or her marriage partner. This alone produces a wholesome
relationship fit to engender and rear healthy and happy children. Another words
you can choose to have sex and just call it sex and if that is who you are then
so be it, and I get it. You are not in a boat by your self, or if you need an
attachment to be with you sex then that is also your choice and your choice
alone, no matter what, the point I wanted to make is that there is a big
difference between sex and love and we can love each other and not have sex,
and we can have sex with each other and not have love, or we can follow the
commandments by God and have both ~ Donnie Bolena
